Why we are failing to Fail ?

Failure is a natural part of life, yet we often try to avoid it at all costs. It’s not uncommon to hear people say things like “failure is not an option” or “failure is not an acceptable outcome.” But what if I told you that failure is not only acceptable, but necessary for growth and success? In this article, we will explore why we are failing to fail and why it’s essential to embrace failure as part of our journey towards success.

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The Fear of Failure – The Paralyzing Emotion ?

One of the reasons we are failing to fail is because of our fear of failure. We’re afraid of what people will think of us if we fail, we’re afraid of losing face, and we’re afraid of the consequences of failure. But the reality is that failure is not the end of the world. In fact, failure is often the first step towards success.

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Take the story of Thomas Edison, for example. Edison failed over 10,000 times before he finally invented the light bulb. When asked about his failures, Edison famously said, “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” Edison embraced failure as part of the process and was not afraid to fail.

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Similarly, J.K. Rowling, the author of the Harry Potter series, was rejected by numerous publishers before finally finding one who believed in her work. Had she been afraid of failure, she may have given up and never become the success she is today.

The fear of failure is something that plagues us all at one point or another. It’s a paralyzing emotion that can stop us from taking risks and trying new things.

Take another story of Sara Blakely, the founder of SpanX, for example. Blakely failed the LSATs twice and worked as a door-to-door saleswoman before founding Spanx. Her product went on to become a multi-billion dollar company. Had she been afraid of failure, she may have never taken the leap to start her own business.

Similarly, Oprah Winfrey was fired from her first television job as an anchor in Baltimore. Had she been afraid of failure, she may have given up and never become the media mogul she is today.

The Culture of Perfectionism – The Unattainable Standard ?

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Another reason we are failing to fail is because of our culture of perfectionism. We often feel like we need to be perfect in every aspect of our lives, and failure is seen as a sign of weakness. This culture of perfectionism can be seen in schools, where students are afraid to take risks and make mistakes because they fear the consequences.

A study conducted by Carol Dweck, a professor of psychology at Stanford University, found that students who were praised for their effort and persistence were more likely to take risks and embrace failure than those who were praised for their intelligence. Dweck’s research suggests that a growth mindset, where failure is seen as an opportunity to learn and grow, is essential for success.

The Consequences of Failing – The Learning Experience !

Another reason we are failing to fail is because of the consequences of failing. In many cases, failure can have severe consequences, such as losing a job or damaging a reputation. These consequences can be especially significant for people in positions of power, such as CEOs or politicians.

But the reality is that everyone fails at some point in their lives, and it’s how we respond to failure that matters. Take the story of Steve Jobs, for example. Jobs was fired from Apple, the company he co-founded, but he didn’t let that failure define him. Instead, he went on to create another successful company, Pixar, and eventually returned to Apple and transformed it into one of the most successful companies in the world.

Take another example of Jeff Bezos, for example. Bezos founded Amazon in 1994, but the company did not turn a profit until 2001. Bezos did not let that failure define him. Instead, he continued to innovate and expand the company, which is now one of the largest and most successful companies in the world.

Embracing Failure – The Key to Success

So how can we start embracing failure? The first step is to shift our mindset and see failure as an opportunity to learn and grow. Instead of focusing on the negative consequences of failure, we should focus on the lessons we can learn from it. We should also celebrate our failures, just as we celebrate our successes, and share our stories with others to inspire and encourage them.

Another way to embrace failure is to take risks and try new things. We should not be afraid to step outside our comfort zones and try things that may not work out. We should also be willing to accept feedback and criticism and use it as a tool for growth and improvement.

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Key Takeaways

In conclusion, failure is not something to be feared, but rather something to be embraced. It’s a necessary part of the journey towards success, and without it, we will never reach our full potential. We need to shift our mindset from one of perfectionism to one of growth, where failure is seen as an opportunity to learn and improve.

The stories of successful people who have failed multiple times before achieving success serve as a reminder that failure is not the end, but rather a stepping stone towards success. If we are willing to embrace failure and see it as an opportunity to learn and grow, we can achieve greatness in our lives.

So let us not be afraid to fail, but rather let us embrace failure as a necessary part of our journey towards success. Let us celebrate our failures, learn from them, and use them to become the best version of ourselves.

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Let’s end our article with some of the most amazing quotes that you can stick on your wall, to remind you that – success or failure its just another stepping stone.

  1. “Success is not final, failure is not fatal: It is the courage to continue that counts.” – Winston Churchill
  2. “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” – Thomas Edison
  3. “Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.” – Winston Churchill
  4. “Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently.” – Henry Ford
  5. “It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all, in which case you have failed by default.” – J.K. Rowling
  6. “I’ve missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. Twenty-six times I’ve been trusted to take the game-winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.” – Michael Jordan
  7. “Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.” – Confucius
  8. “Failure is a detour, not a dead-end street.” – Zig Ziglar
  9. “If you’re not failing every now and again, it’s a sign you’re not doing anything very innovative.” – Woody Allen
  10. “Don’t fear failure. Fear being in the exact same place next year as you are today.” – Unknown

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